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The same with the other ridiculous questions like:  Dick size for example. As long as you have one that's kewl with me. Mine is none of your business since you will never get to feel it inside you (I am passive). Size doesn't matter if the only thing you do with it is PEE.

What is it like where you live? What do you do for fun, work, adventure.
These are the things you should want to know and NEED to know if any sort of relationship is going to survive past the first few minutes.

IN SHORT, GROW THE FUCK UP and begin to ask GROWN-UP questions such as...the above, and NOT about shit that doesn't matter. You only look childish and stupid when you ask about the shallow and totally superficial bullshit.

Thank you for respecting my feelings and only asking me about WHO I am.

I rest my case.

I spent a few minutes yesterday looking through the pics of a friend.

Guess what?

There must be at least 10 pics that look almost entirely different from other pics...and all seem to have been taken in the same time frame.

SO, which is he? What does he REALLY look like? At this point, not that I care cause I do not, but really. WHICH PIC is most what he in reality looks like NOW. Frankly the first pic i looked at and the last one, could have easily been two different people, That much change...and some of his pics I will admit were hot, while others definitely not; so which is it?

I have NO clue. And this is not that uncommon. I don't look the same between right and left profiles. I could easily be two different people. I change. WE ALL DO.

So what good is a pic if it really doesn't represent what anyone really looks like or look like NOW?

Not much.

THAT is not what is important anyway. SO WHAT if he is your idea of perfection, heaven, this minute. Tomorrow? Next week? Next year?

What does not really change is WHO someone is. Their character, their personality, their values. Do you share common interests? Do you find him easy to talk to? Is he a caring kind dude? Is he bright? Does he have a good sense of humor and a good outlook on life? What are his prioritties? Is he ambitious? Is he charitable?

Now I will admit as human beings we DO evolve or at least I hope so. Opinions change about things we encounter, and we can at times experience some fundamental shifts in our beliefs AS WE LEARN AND GROW. BUT, at the same time WHO WE ARE FUNDAMENTALLY, does not change that much. We are pretty much static in our personalities, our basic character, and our essence.

But again, who is he? What does he think about, what does he like, what IS HE LIKE, what motivates him, what does he like to do for fun, what are his passions, his peeves, WHO IS HE?

If you said you don't know to ANY OR ALL of those questions, why don't you find out? Ask the questions that reveal WHO he is. Focus on what matters, what lasts? His looks won't but HE will. But is he someone you want to spend your life with? How will you ever know that if you don't find out by asking questions that tell you and just engage him in normal conversation. Is it easy? Is it strained? After sex talk, what else will you talk about?

HUH?

You will NEVER have ANY successful relationship no matter who it's with UNLESS YOU STOP concentrating on the meaningless drivel that is the shallowness of focusing on looks, age, height, etc. NONE OF THAT FUCKING MATTERS, if you don't share more than that.

PERIOD! Is he someone you will laugh with down through the years, enjoy walking hand in hand with, be comfortable with?

DO YOU KNOW?
His looks, his age, his stats will not tell you ANY of that.
Sorry, but it just doesn't work that way.
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Yeh I guess one of the hardest parts of meeting new dudes is that you have to start all over again. I have to begin the process of getting to know someone else. That for me is hard. Most people find that hard to believe because I seem so outgoing, and I am...but I have social Anxiety Disorder. It is a genetic thing that runs in families and does in mine.

One of the hardest things I guess is having to feel as if i have to defend my attitudes about shallowness. WHY is it SO hard tor people to understand that what you look like is NOT WHO YOU ARE, and really doesn't matter much, AGE is SO irrelevant as to be insulting TO BE ASKED. yes, insulting. BECAUSE...it is SO irelevant

what does age tell you about someone?
NOTHING
PERIOD
ABSOLUTELY NOTHING

so why ask?
STUPID!