THE SURFACE. SUPERFICIALITY.
If you were blind however, you would be forced to look with your instincts, with your heart. You would have to 'see' the PERSON, WHO THEY ARE and who they are INSIDE where it counts, and not the outward appearance which fades while the inner person doesn't.
So let's say you ask someone how tall they are and they tell you, so what do you now know about WHO they are?
If you are blind, you could ask and the answer would be the same but what would you gain by knowing their height?
If you ask someone how old they are, again...what would you gain if they tell you? You would know how long they have spent on the earth alive, but what else? Would you be able knowing their age to 'see' into their character? Would you know their beliefs and values and principles? Would their age give you insight into their interests or even their talents and gifts? Would you now know ANYTHING OF RELEVANCE in order to judge what kind of person they are?
The short (and long) answer is a resounding NO. You would have NO CLUE whether they are a 'good' or 'bad' person or what kind of human being they are or if you have anything in common or...and yet so many times that is the VERY FIRST THING people ask. FOR WHAT? It is STUPID, not to mention irrelevant. AGE TELLS YOU ABSOLUTELY NOTHING, and neither does a person's looks. Their age changes while you talk to and look at them. Their looks do too as we are ALL a set of constantly moving molecules and nobody's looks are static. NOBODY'S. We all change, at our own pace, and we age the same way. But the simple fact is WE ALL DO IT. THE ONE CONSTANT IN LIFE FOR ALL OF US IS...WHO WE ARE INSIDE.
IF YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE BASED ON THEIR LOOKS, what happens when their looks fade? If you fall in love with someone based on their money, what happens if they lose it all?
THIS IS IN PART WHY...I do not fall into the stupid superficial trap of looking at anyone on the outside.
YES, when I first meet someone...I go through their pictures. I like to make comments to brighten people's day, get a laugh, etc. But when that is done so am I as far as their pics are concerned. THEN, I focus on the person they are from then on. I learn or attempt to anyway, who they are, what they believe, what they like, what they value, what they like to do, what makes them laugh and cry and get angry. I attempt to find out what their days are like. Their life, family, etc.
The things that are important will tell me if they and I have common interests. Without that there is not much change of a burgeoning relationship although not impossible.
ALL relationships start with friendship and how does that work if all you give a fuck about is their looks or their age or their dick size, or how nice an ass they have? GUESS WHAT, IT DOESN'T.
So, if you don't focus on WHO someone is you are wasting your time and theirs. Their looks won't last forever and if you want something to last it better be for something better than that, or ANY of the surface stats so many people get all psyched up about for NO GOOD REASON.
GUESS WHAT? IF YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH WHO SOMEONE IS, YOU WILL AUTOMATICALLY FALL IN LOVE WITH THE REST OF THEM. It is a certainty, unless you are a superficial shallow misfit.
I am in love. BIG TIME in love, I think...but I have not gotten to know him yet, and really don't know if he is REALLY worthwhile. I just hope this time it lasts. If we both understand what is TRULY IMPORTANT, I think it will.
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