Pg 10 - WHAT IS IMPORTANT & WHAT ISN'T

I am American, from the State of Michigan in the Midwest.

I speak only English. My ex is from 
Afghanistan. My current husband who I married in the big cathedral in Grand Rapids in 2015 is Israeli-American and was raised about 25 mi north of here. 

I am a journalist, writer, musician and webmaster. 

I will send you some of my stuff later, but in the meantime I will send you some of what I think and feel.

I have become SO sick of having to repeat this. But... maybe this is the last time I will have to do this. Who knows. 

Some people just never seem to 'get it'.

TO START WITH, 
there are some things 
you need to know about me.

CATEGORY:  
SOME THINGS I DO NOT LIKE

A: RUDE & INCONSIDERATE QUESTIONS:

(more on that below 
but here is the skinny:

#1. HOW OLD ARE YOU? 

GOD that pisses me off.

MINUS 12 Some days  
(others 25 and others 104. 
IT ALL DEPENDS. 
If you are a bill or tax collector, or a telemarketer, or a REAL HOTTIE, or...
the prospective in-law, or...)

I'm 12 and you better leave. 
Child Protective Services 
has been called.

How old are YOU and even if you tell me, what does that tell me 
ABOUT YOU? NOTHING! 
Which means the question is COMPLETELY irrelevant and stupid...and beside all that, in the beginning we are talking FRIENDS. 
So WHAT IN THE FUCK 
do the age and looks thing 
have to DO WITH ANYTHING...GEEZ. GROW UP PEOPLE.

#2. DO YOU HAVE PICS? 

YES. 

Pics of Mittens (who died at the age of 22 in 2014) and Kiki my current cat almost 5), Hawaii, Canada, Mexico, 
me AND your mother AND your brother...
IN BED.

Some of Europe. Mexico and the Americas...
and maybe even a few of you. 

ME? No. and even if I did...

I don't owe you that. Besides, like age. 

So what if I send you a pic of me RIGHT NOW?

How long am I gonna look EXACTLY like that. THE CORRECT ANSWER IS: Zero minutes. 

Pics are at BEST a representation. 
Even videos do not really capture 
the exact likeness. BUT I AND YOU are not gonna KEEP looking 

like that. 

Everything on this planet 

is a collection of 
constantly moving molecules. 

We are changing CONSTANTLY. Plus 

some of us change a whole HELL of a lot faster than others. 

Hair today, bald tomorrow. REALLY. Skinny today FAT tomorrow. 

I have seen it happen. 

I, like you, look different depending on which profile or full frontal. Profile pics can make you look like two different people. Mine do. 

Hair style changes make a huge difference. 

Why do people constantly BITCH about their drivers' license pics as 
not looking like them? 

IT IS A PIC folks. 
JUST like the shit YOU post 

on social media. 

It REALLY doesn't look 

like you for very long if at all. Pics and videos ALSO structurally add age and weight. Yup. Pics make you look older and fatter on average. 
Maybe yours doesn't but EVERYONE will ASSUME 

it does for YOU. Oh goodie. So this is me...

now subtract ten years and 10-20 #.

UH...

DO THE MATH...what you got now?

Now THAT is what I call a  BONER.

Wanna dance?

NOT just your body parts.

SO, you need to know ME, 
not my body. 

Again, that is a stupid and irrelevant question.

AND NEITHER am I under ANY obligation to answer, hotstuff. 

Sending me YOUR pics doesn't either. 
I can file those under U for unsolicited REALLY quick. (or P for PERVERT).

#3. CAN YOU SEND ME MONEY? 

No. I have had a LOT of REALLY AWFUL things happen to me since last fall. Wiped me out better than Charmin EVER will. Plumbing, car, dishwasher, washing machine, and a lot more besides...and, this week alone. Have had 

increases in both my car and homeowners insurance. Taxes, and a $300 VET bill none of which I had planned for and in June my license plates are up for renewal and boy are they expensive here.

NOW THE MEDICAL BILLS.

BUT even if I had the $ to give you I probably wouldn't. Americans have been targets for people who think ALL Americans are wealthy for far too long. Filipino's, Africans. Now the Middle East, notably Pakistanis and Afghans.

 Egyptians, Lebanese, Syrians, Moroccans, Algerians, Saudi's tend NOT to come across as a beggar class. Because it is horribly unattractive amongst other things. Off-putting.

 Americans are a generous sort but we get short 
on patience AND $ when we think someone is trying to take advantage of us. 

You can do more 
to damage even irreparably harm the relations between our countries and cultures by being too quick to try to extract from Westerners without waiting for the relationship to catch up.

ALL AMERICANS ARE WEALTHY!

That is a myth. We are not, but we also RESENT being asked out of context. If we barely know each other and YOU are asking ME for money already?

If I want to share with you I will WITHOUT being asked. Your asking only makes YOU look insensitive and mercenary. Makes ME feel bad but trust me. Most Westerners will say no and suffer NO guilt. We don't like being played for fools and patsy's, and if you think YOU are the ONLY one asking me for money, guess again. 3 out of 4 dudes from the Middle East I meet do, sooner or later and usually sooner. And a lot do NOT look like they need it. Nice homes, nice cars...so why ask? You expect me or any other American to BUY YOUR FRIENDSHIP? Guess again. I will have $$$ again, but I will also remember.

In short, treat me as you would anyone else you meet offline or on. Treat me as if you are really interested in ME, not my body NOR my bank account. ME. Express interest by asking questions that SHOW that. Not the bullshit age and looks crap. ME. What are my interests? Values? What do I care about? Likes, Dislikes BECAUSE if you don't ask you will never know and if you never know you will never get to know the person I am.

and trust me if you don't want that....

Lastly, WHY IN THE FUCK would ANYONE want to know my age or looks ESPECIALLY BEFORE they know ANYTHING ELSE about me. Tells me THAT is THEIR priorities. 

SORRY, NOT MINE and if they are yours? 

Color me GONE.

Now,about emigrating to the United States.

I can understand that. This IS a beautiful country and after all. I AM HERE. Lol. BUT...

#1. YOU MUST BE proficient in English. You have to pass a very difficult English proficiency test and if you no ticky, you no washy.

#2. Emigrating to the United States is not usually easy. Multiple ways and visas and some are easier than others. With some I can help OTHER than financially. Others I may not be able to. & no tacky if I can't. Work, Study, Tourist, Marriage & Fiance Visas and each take some time, at least 9 months to a year on average INITIALLY, and have numerous hurdles. it is also expensive, and I cannot help with that at the moment. Down the road, probably. NOW, no. If you want to come here, we can talk about it but it is NEITHER fast or cheap.

Ok, bottom line. I am NOT anyone's sugar daddy. I am NOT a meal ticket. I am not a portal to the United States ALONE.

What I am is a really cute dude, bright ambitious funny and all that jazz who can and might be THE BEST FRIEND YOU EVER HAD. I give better than I get AS LONG AS YOU TREAT ME WITH RESPECT, as a person not a target or an inanimate entity with no feelings or a sex object the same.

I can and might be your FUTURE, AND your forever. I just might be the best LOVER you COULD EVER HOPE FOR.

But I will be NONE of those things TO YOU if you try to short cut the basics of relationship 101. Period, and that is guaranteed.

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OK, 1st of all...

             THERE ARE TWO THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER WASTE YOUR TIME ON;

      THINGS THAT DON'T MATTER AND PEOPLE WHO THINK YOU DON'T MATTER

If the very first thing out of their mouth is:  Do you have more pictures, and my personal fave...

HOW OLD ARE YOU?

MY ANSWER,  beside the obvious WHAT?

Ok. Let's take these two things one at a time.

PEOPLE PLEASE. 

HAS EVERY DUDE ON THE PLANET SUDDENLY GONE BRAIN DEAD ALL AT ONCE?

#1. HOW OLD ARE YOU?

That has to be one of if not 
THE STUPIDEST QUESTIONS...
EVER,

The question is stupid cause the answer no matter what it is is meaningless. It says how long someone has lived on this earth. BIG WHOOP. But it says NOTHING about what anyone has done with the time spent. HOW spent. Have they been successful or a lazy ass?

It says NOTHING about someone's character, their values, principles, beliefs. NOTHING about their interests, family, or their intellect.

Are they bright? Not? Engaging? Who knows. YOU don't. Their religion? Nope.

Their age TRULY tells you nothing about whether or not you have shared interests. Why don't you wanna know that? IF you don't have common interests WHAT THE FUCK DOES IT MATTER how old they are? You ain't gonna be with them anyway...so your asking is doubly stupid.

IT TELLS YOU NOTHING MEANINGFUL OR FOR THAT MATTER ANYTHING MEANINGLESS.. IT IS JUST A WASTE OF TIME AND BREATH.

SO.

WHY IN HELL would anyone with 
HALF A BRAIN (Ahhhhhh)...
want to ask 
or answer it.

BEATS ME!

Just prurient interest I guess. But even for that it is a pretty stupid exercise.

Now, do you honestly think that just because someone is of a certain age they are gonna be HOTTIES?

Meaning that YOU are SO shallow and superficial that you think that sort of thing is important in the grand scheme of things. 

GOD HELP US ALL..sorry, WRONG.

I see dudes all the time obviously in their teens and who are GROSSLY OBESE, I also see dudes I would guess are in their sixties and even seventies who are toned and fit...and 'with it'. 

"OH YEH, DUH, he is 21 so he will like 
the things I do". 

YOU NEVER MET A 21yo AIRHEAD? 

Trust me they are out here.

Let's just say...
SOME OF YOU NEED TO FUCKING GROW UP. 

Get some maturity...and start to focus on the things THAT MATTER.

FOR GOD'S SAKE...FIND OUT WHO someone is. Not just what they look like, their dick size, 
and their age.

What do you share in common? Are they a GOOD PERSON, not perfect but good decent dudes. Shallow? Deep? ARE THEY A GOOD FIT FOR YOU, (and NO I am not talking about assholes, ALTHOUGH honey...)

Good MATCH? FOR YOU?

How in the fuck would YOU know.You all hung up on age and looks and all the things that change constantly for ALL of us INCLUDING YOU.

All you know is they are whatever age...
and that is about it. 

GOD are you REALLY THAT SHALLOW?

C'mon. Don't make yourself look that childish or stupid. Throw away the bullshit questions and ask something relevant for a change. Remember, one of these days YOU won't be twenty-something EITHER. Neither will I and I want to be appreciated for WHO I am and NOT what I used to look like. AND OH YEH..

If YOU look at anyone over the age of 25 as if to say..."WHYAIN'T YOU IN THE DUMPSTER?"

One of these days YOU will be over the age of 25. UNLESS BEING STUPID IS A TERMINAL DISEASE!